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Harriette Cole: I’m ashamed to tell people I forgave my childhood friend

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

DEAR HARRIETTE: A few years ago, I was deeply hurt by my childhood friend. During that time, I confided in my loved ones about my decision to end my friendship with this person, explaining the details of the situation and vowing to end the friendship once and for all. Everyone close to me was proud that I’d decided to cut this person out of my life.Related ArticlesAdvice | Harriette Cole: I’ve worked hard, and my poor siblings resent my success Advice | Harriette Cole: I want to move to a big city but I’m scared of driving Advice | Harriette Cole: My husband won’t help with the baby, and I’m considering divorce Advice | Harriette Cole: My boyfriend’s teenage secret has made me really nervous Advice | Harriette Cole: How do I tell my friend I won’t support her custody request? Over time, I found it in my heart to forgive my friend, understanding that people can ma...

Miss Manners: She wants to turn our music festival into a get-drunk weekend

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Several old friends and I have planned a girls’ weekend at a world-famous music festival in a beautiful city this summer.But one of the four recently insisted, in a group text, that she did not want to spend her valuable dollars on things she doesn’t care for — namely, classical music, opera or chamber music. These are the focus of this festival and the reason we chose that particular weekend.Related ArticlesAdvice | Miss Manners: My rule is no gift for a second wedding, no attendance for a third Advice | Miss Manners: She became irate when I corrected her statement about the moon Advice | Miss Manners: I complimented this celebrity, and his reply was insulting Advice | Miss Manners: My summer dresses make my boyfriend uncomfortable Advice | Miss Manners: My fiancee says she must have a diamond, despite my objection I mentioned that the festival includes jazz and blue...

2 former Marin County cops arraigned on assault charges in bloody arrest

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

Former San Rafael police officer Brandon Nail and his attorney Julia Fox head to Nail’s arraignment on assault charges in Marin Superior Court in San Rafael on Friday. Nail and former officer Daisy Mazariegos were charged with assaulting a man during an arrest last summer in the Canal neighborhood. Nail and Mazariegos entered not guilty pleas before Judge Beth Jordan. (Sherry LaVars/Marin Independent Journal) Two former San Rafael police officers accused of assaulting a detainee and lying about it were arraigned Friday on criminal charges.Brandon Nail and Daisy Mazariegos, who were involved in the bloody arrest that prompted protests last year, pleaded not guilty in Marin County Superior Court.The charges include assault by an officer under color of authority and making false statements in a crime report.“I think the DA is completely out to lunch on this case,” said Chris Shea, the attorney defending Mazariegos. “This is not a case that can be proven beyond a reasonable doubt.”...

Bay Area realty agents frustrated after cyber attack hobbles MLS

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

Marin real estate agents are scrambling after an essential online tool used to connect home buyers to sellers was hacked.The service remained down Friday ahead of a weekend of open houses during a crucial time of year.The ransomware cyber-attack Wednesday left Multiple Listing Service, a property information and cooperative data service, down across the country. The outage left new property listings and open houses unsearchable, and certain data unavailable.Megan Pomponio, a real estate agent with Compass Real Estate based in Kentfield, said the MLS outage limited the information available, postponing listings and delaying communication between agents and brokers.“I have no idea what’s going on or how long it will take,” she said Friday.While she did not have any listings planned over the weekend, she said she was unable to see the status of current listings or any private remarks, such as where keys were located — information that is critical to open houses.In an email sent to subs...

150th Anniversary: The San Francisco cable cars, history in motion

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

150 years ago this month, the first cable car made its way down a San Francisco street with its inventor, Andrew Hallidie, at the controls.Andrew Hallidie returned to San Francisco in 1857, where he set up a factory to manufacture wire rope. In addition to aerial tramways, his rope was used to build suspension bridges across creeks and rivers throughout northern California.In the 1860s, Hallide saw horses struggling to climb the city’s streets, especially in the rain. He took out a patent for an “Endless Wire Ropeway” and implemented it for San Francisco. Hillidie’s company began operations in September 1873. Soon, other companies had lines. The cable cars lasted through the 1906 earthquake and fire, an effort to rid the city of them in 1947 and became a National Historic Landmark in 1964.Today’s fleetThe San Francisco Municipal Railway maintains the current fleet of 40 cars. Not all are in service at the same time.The cable cars travel on steel tracks set above a channel enclosing ...

August is peak mosquito season, and California’s in a fight against disease some carry

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

Bugged outWe all love to spend the summer months outside, but the warmest months also bring out more bugs, some of which may carry nasty diseases.According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, over 200 types of mosquitoes live in the continental United States and U.S. territories and about 12 types spread germs that can make people sick.In California, there are approximately 50 kinds of mosquitoes with about six that carry harmful diseases such as West Nile virus, Zika, dengue and yellow fever viruses. Some infect horses, birds and house pets.You can open a PDF from the California Department of Health that lists the dangerous mosquitoes in California here.Some studies claim mosquitoes are the world’s deadliest animal and estimates say they kill 700,000 people a year, with most in Sub-Saharan Africa.How they find usBody odors, exhaled breath and body heat all alert mosquitoes to a person’s presence. The bugs pick up scents through olfactory neurons on their antennae—the...

Attorney General Rob Bonta ‘deeply disturbed’ by Murrieta Valley schools’ transgender policy

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

California Attorney General Rob Bonta has criticized the Murrieta Valley school board’s decision Thursday night, Aug. 10, to approve the notifying of parents if their student is transgender.“I am deeply disturbed to learn another school district has put at risk the safety and privacy of transgender and gender nonconforming students by adopting a forced outing policy,” Bonta said in the Friday, Aug. 11, statement.“My office remains committed to ensuring school policies do not target or seek to discriminate against California’s most vulnerable communities,” he said in the statement. “California will not stand for violations of our students’ civil rights.”The Murrieta Valley Unified School District board’s decision came less than a month after the Chino Valley Unified School District board adopted its policy to notify parents of transgender students. Murrieta trustees’ vote comes one week after Bonta announced an investigation into potential legal violations caused by Chino Valley’s po...

‘We leave now’: California man recounts harrowing escape from Maui wildfire

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

Adam Probolsky and his wife and kids jumped into a rental car packed with luggage cinched by bungee cords as towering flames grew closer to their picturesque Maui resort. It was Wednesday morning, Aug. 9. They had one goal —  to get off the island.The day before, high winds knocked out power at the Hyatt Regency Maui Resort and Spa. Then, as night fell, the massive wildfire spread.“We could hear explosions in the distance, and every single one was a really sad case,” said Probolsky, 49, a public policy researcher from Irvine, in a phone interview from Honolulu on Thursday. “Those are propane tanks. When you heard that, you knew somebody lost a part of their life.”Probolsky and his wife Desiree, his mother-in-law Lupe, and daughters Isabela, 9, and Olivia, 10. had arrived at the resort just north of Lahaina on Sunday.As the fire grew closer Tuesday, the hotel began to run out of food and basics, including toilet paper and batteries. When the resort finally lost internet service, Prob...

Sea lions return to ocean as toxic bloom that sickened California marine mammals fades

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

As marine mammal care centers along the Southern California coast come up for air after two months of trying to rescue sea lions and dolphins sickened by a toxic algae bloom, their leaders warn the environmental and public safety emergency was a wake-up call for greater collaboration between nonprofits and local municipalities.“What made this so bad, beyond the sick and dying animals, was that it was a public safety issue,” said John Warner, CEO of the Marine Mammal Care Center Los Angeles. “You had animals popping out of the water in front of thousands of people while seizing and giving birth. It was horrifying and really dangerous.”Sea lions that became ill from toxic algae bloom around at LA beaches in early and mid June have now recovered thanks to care at the Marine Mammal Center Los Angeles in San Pedro. Today two of the sea lion were released back to the ocean in Marina del Rey on Thursday, August 10, 2023. (Photo by Brittany Murray, Press-Telegram/SCNG)Sea lions that became ...

Dear Abby: I was annoyed to discover why our friends picked this restaurant

Published Sat, 22 Feb 2025 13:26:07 GMT

DEAR ABBY: In lieu of a regular “pizza night,” some good friends invited my wife and me to join them at a high-end restaurant. We agreed. We had a good dinner and an enjoyable evening.Related ArticlesAdvice | Dear Abby: I had to get rid of my beautiful furnishings because of guests’ stupid comments Advice | Dear Abby: She’s trying to one-up me by being the fun aunt Advice | Dear Abby: I’m 20, he’s 46 and married, and my family isn’t being supportive Advice | Dear Abby: I feel bad about it, but I had to squash my husband’s dream Advice | Dear Abby: We’re nervous about telling our kids this family secret When our separate checks arrived, our friends paid theirs with a gift card. Ours was a whopper, and the reason they wanted to eat there became quite obvious. I was annoyed because I felt our friends should have applied their gift card to the entire bill...